Originally Posted by
Babescake 
I hate that the treatment for a selfish addiction is to be selfish. Quite contradictory isn't it?
This time being selfish is to learn to live a healthy beautiful life. You'll learn skills that help you to recognize when you're being selfish. I am with Zanna in the thought that this is your year. Start the year off and take care of yourself first. So you can take care of your son, parents and friends.
you said it's quite contradictory, you will find a lot of contrary information in the 12-step program. Here's one: There's no judgement in the rooms of AA, but you need to stick with the winners. Anyway, I wish you a lot of luck. 12 step programs are very successful for those that have an open mind, willingness, and do the work.