I don't know if its your AV or not. I do know for me that 'catastrophizing' is part of the thinking that drives me to drink, however.
I was feeling awful on NYE. My almost 17 yr old daughter was at a friends house. Who really knows what they were doing. I believe she is pretty honest with me overall but, ya know, she IS 17. So I started awfulizing. What if, what if, what if.....and yes, like you, I have to stop myself. Stay in the moment. Stay with what I know I have control over (which isn't much). Pray that the universe has her and that I have to let go and trust that everything will be ok. And more than likely it will. I'm losing her. She'll be gone in a year and half...away at school. Ugh. Its like a punch in the gut if I allow it to be. I talked to her about it yesterday. That I'm 'passing the baton' of her safety to her and that it does make me uneasy. So its going to be an interesting couple of years...as I learn to let go piece by piece.
I think the good ole serenity prayer kinda sums it up.