For me, I didn't need to think and plan to get sober, I just needed to do it. That may sound simple, and it is, but it's definitely not easy. A person has to want to stop drinking more than they want to keep drinking. Sober, there are plenty of times I'm lonely, overtired, out-of-sorts, depressed, grouchy, bored, anxious, or sometimes craving. All of those are part of life, and can be managed much better without alcohol. There's lots of conversation here about both the good and the mundane of sober living.