Hi Lightanddark,
I understand the fear of missing out. I allowed it to keep me from being sober for years.
In reality though, what I came to understand was that I was only really missing out when I was drinking. All the blackouts, preoccupation with alcohol and all the maladaptive behaviour that came with it, left me very much alone and not one of the crowd. Ironically it took being sober to be like everyone else.
I am over one year sober now and rarely feel i want to drink. I am busier now with my life full of things that i never had in active addiction,
Early days it can be hard,but it gets easier,