Old 12-27-2017, 02:48 PM
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I hope that typing your post has given you the clarity that you need.
Nobody caused his alcoholism. No matter what our problems are, alcohol does not solve them, so his drinking is his choice, just as my drinking was mine.
The reasons for his drinking are neither here nor there though. Even if he was on here himself it would still need to be a case of stop repeating the crazy then if you can figure that out later, so be it, but don't let it distract you from stopping the crazy.

Maybe the most important thing for now is just staying away from him and un-enmeshing yourself from him. Financially and legally and with your day to day routine. If you are undecided about the divorce side of things, well, you can make up your mind when you DO know what you want to do. But please, do ensure that you and yoyr children are emotionally,physically, financially, and socially safe from him and his destructive behavior.

The friends and family sub-forum will no doubt be very useful to you.... https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...ly-alcoholics/

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