Originally Posted by
JustTony 
I suppose I'm saying talk to him. Remind him of the man you married and of the beautiful kids you have. Ask him to be a bit more relaxed as seeing his smile makes you float. Seeing his frown makes you weep. Appeal to that side of him that still exists but is masked by depression/worries/drink (who knows).
I think this is exactly what I need to do. It will just be a gentle, short conversation today but only if I know I will be able to stay calm. I stayed in bed so late this morning using all the techniques I know to try to calm my anxiety. Boxing Day traffic will make or break me!!
I am currently sitting having a cup of tea while he scurries round cleaning & tidying. If I offer to help he says it is his job, end of conversation.
I'm off to pack for us all soon. Scotland will be ok, it will only be my husband drinking, no one else does.
Thanks for the contained support everyone, it means a lot.