it's difficult, but we must remember that others get to make their own choices about how they live their lives. EVEN WHEN they continue to make the worst choices possible. she knows HELP is available, she had had many many chances to turn right instead of left. but today........she does not. she may........someday..........or she may keep on the path of destruction. it's best to observe from a safe distance....safe for YOU.....with detachment and with love.