I don't know if it's appropriate for me to comment because I'm in the exact same boat as you, but... I flinch at myself in the mirror, too. Like, who is that, even?? I can't quite take you seriously, just because I thought
I was the worst alcoholic there ever was. Of course, I'm kidding, though. I take your very seriously. I just want you to know you're not alone. It's a crappy state to be in, for sure.
I think you can do it, though. I bet you're still sweet, beautiful, smart, and kind. I bet we both are, deep down.