I think it depends. If any of my family wants to know my drinking habits, I let them know, so there's never been any reason to be breathalyzed; I'm always brutally honest and never hide anything.
If someone was hiding booze, drinking on the down low and broke trust time and time again, then I don't think one can become indignant when asked for proof early in recovery. It just depends on the previous history, imo.
Disclaimer: not married