Andy, BB505, and BBlue,
Thanks so much for the helpful replies, means a lot.
My therapist always tells me that if I can't do it for myself, pretend I am doing it for her, or for a client.
I did not see last weekender thread but I will check it out, read the OP and it seemed right on point and very thoughtful.
Thanks again -- now back to digging myself of my latest mess....