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Old 12-15-2017, 06:00 AM
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boreas
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Originally Posted by Eaglelizard View Post
We become new people and those new people need to find new ways to interact with our SOs.
I have come to think of it as the same mechanism that caused the breakup of my marriage. As the years went by, we became different people who needed different things, and we didn’t do that growth together as happens in a successful marriage. I see the same with my sobriety and my current partner, just in a shortened time frame. I am different and changing daily, and so our relationship is changing. So far it works as we are committed and compatible, but I knew going in that I would change in ways I couldn’t forsee and that might lead to a breakup of this relationship as well.

Your post speaks to an effort to balance your needs to attend to your sobriety and personal growth, as well as a conscious effort to meet your partner’s needs. I think that is the best anyone can do, early sobriety or not.

-bora
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