Prayers Muunray. Yes let her find out her own way. You were so kind to offer shelter but I learned that when I was sheltering my active addict son, I was not allowing him to experience the consequences of his actions. I have accepted that my son is an addict, from the time he relapses, I try to detach and only offer help to get him into recovery. It helps me to know that my son knows exactly what he needs to do if he wants help. He found his own way (without me getting involved) to rehab and now has near 6 months clean of the strongest recovery I have ever seen from him and Momma had NOTHING to do with it!