Originally Posted by biminiblue

People who use drugs usually don't cope with crises well, and the drug is the escape. Then in time it becomes necessary for every day tasks. If he was doing the disappearing act/silent treatment, and you weren't living together, he already had a lot of time away to have a secret life.

I was married to a man with a secret life. Eventually I had to get out. It's better by far to just be away from that. I know you're in pain now and I understand how wrenching it is, but in time you may see this as a blessing. You've just dodged a bullet.

One day at a time. For me in the beginning sometimes it was one minute at a time. You're going to be okay.