I,m hearing ya tomsteve if I may jump in to sadsadgirls thread .
Guilt can hang around me too and I too need the ass kikin wellington tossed in the canal .
Guilt is, first and foremost, an emotion. You may think of guilt as a good way to get someone to do something for you out of a sense of obligation. Guilt is not a very good motivator. It's more accurate to think of guilt as an internal state. In the overall scheme of emotions, guilt is in the general category of negative feeling states. It’s one of the “sad” emotions, which also include agony, grief, and loneliness ...... Susan Krauss Whitbourne .