he stole THOUSANDS of dollars from his place of employment.....and why? to use and gamble. that is not the trait of a WONDERFUL person, or a MISUNDERSTOOD person, that is the trait of a selfish, out for themselves, consequences be damned person.
i'm glad you are out. i don't care who blinked first. things were likely to get much much worse for you if you had stayed in his orbit. it sounds like he was always using something, the entire time. and he is FAR from being done or ready to consider recovery.
it hurts. but it will pass.