Old 11-10-2017, 03:56 PM
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Maudcat
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Hi, subwife.
Welcome.
I have said this before on another forum,, so please forgive because I am repeating.
I think that one of the most insidious aspects of addiction is the normalization within the family of the addict’s dysfunctional behavior.
They just wear us down,
We don’t become used to it, but we do become inured to it.
The selfishness, the me-me-me, the pushing against boundaries, the emotional absence.
Where do you see yourself and your marriage 5 years from now? 10?
Unless the addict embraces sobriety and recovery, things will get progressively worse.
And that great career? Wouldn’t count on him maintaining that over time.
I recommend either group support in the form of Nar-Anon or Al-Anon, or maybe counselling with someone experienced in family therapy when addiction is a factor.
Also suggest you check out the friends and family forums.
Good luck.
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