Rachele, welcome to SR. All the posts on this thread, except for yours, are from 2010. Most, if not all, of those who posted in the original thread are not around here 7 years later. There is definitely wisdom to be gained from reading old threads, but if you're looking for answers to questions (You ask "do you have a better solution?") or for live, current feedback, you'd do better to start a thread of your own to tell us a little bit about yourself and your own situation.
In the meantime, since you're apparently reading around the forum, make sure to read the "stickies" at the top of the page--there's a ton of education and inspiration there, so if you can work your way through it, you'll have gotten a real "boot camp" experience regarding alcoholism, codependence and other topics you could probably use some help with.
Again, welcome, and I look forward to seeing your intro thread soon.