Originally Posted by
brokenheartfool 
Alright, for this thread's purposes, let's say that what you said above is a given. You find your own happiness wherever.
Even if the spouse is an ex, I'd still like to hear stories of the emotional connection and how much its success/failure is attributed to the alcohol, or perhaps isn't tied to the alcohol!
Just trying to sort out in my own head that I blamed the emotional disconnect on the alcohol, but perhaps it is far more complicated than that. I don't know if he became sober whether I would be dealing with a different person or not. If he continued to drink forever, how much would be lost in translation?
The alcoholic brain. How much of their thinking is a result of the alcohol, how much is other things.
And for those whose spouses did get sober--how about the emotional connection then?
I think the person would be able to emotionally connect if not drinking along with better communication skills when it comes to marriage. I have seen friends relationships much better when the alcoholic admitted the problem and wants to change themselves for the better. People act poorly when drunk and that's where the problem lies. It changes the behavior. If you change the drinking for what ever reason the behavior gets better!