Old 10-29-2017, 12:26 PM
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Needabreak
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Originally Posted by sylvie83 View Post
I hear you! This was me too. And the saddest thing is we don't even know we're doing it and we're scrabbling around trying to understand why things just aren't working or why we are getting treated so badly...

So glad I met my ex so I could find Al Anon and this forum and start to see things the way they really are!

Thanks for sharing.
I feel the same way, Sylvie. As much as my relationship with my ex-addict hurt at the time, the amount of self-growth and self-knowledge that arose from it is something I wouldn't trade for the world.

After going through the hell of an addict partner, I became aware of just how naive I was, and how strong I really could be. I finally grew up and became an adult, comfortable in my own skin, and I no longer look for validation from ANYONE -- friend, lover or relative -- outside of me.
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