A part of the AA big Book that is becoming a favourite for me is a very helpful statement in terms of clarifying whether AA is for you. It goes:
"Whether or not you can recover on a non-spiritual basis will depend on the extent to which you have already lost the power to choose whether you will drink or not"
I lost the power of choice in drink, but not everybody does. Even for those of us that have, the ego usually drives some tremendous efforts to prove this is not so, and we can sort our selves out (thank you very much). Then comes defeat and surrender, closely followed by complete recovery. That is my experience anyway.