Hello celandra, that's a great thread title and post!
I would add, don't forget to treat yourself with respect and trust! I've found that everything I feel is inside, then I can project it out. Had I not forgiven myself for my horrendous misdemeanours against others, and forgiven others for their transgressions against me, then I'd still be here, drinking and stewing in regrets and resentments...instead of being happily sober for nearly 14 months.