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Old 10-25-2017, 12:16 PM
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soberandhonest
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I'm sorry that you are in this dilemma SendaBoat. I don't know what I would do because I'm afraid that I would be feeling the same emotions as you. I don't believe that you are being selfish if you don't take your husband's son in. After all, he is 57 years old and you have worked your life so that you could enjoy your retirement, as modest as it might be. I think most would agree that you aren't being selfish. The thing about guilt and selfishness, though, is that if YOU are feeling that way, then it doesn't really matter what I or others feel.

If you do take your husband's son in, be prepared to cut him loose in the event of relapse, without the guilt. And make sure your husband is too. If he goes back to alcohol, then you are doing nothing but enabling him by continuing to offer him food and shelter.

Good luck to you and your husband.
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