Della....with all that change, at one time, especially, it is amazing that you are doing so well. It will all settle out...a step at a time...I promise!
What you are feeling is completely normal, I think, for this early in the process....
Your family is not living in your skin...it is easy to be critical from a distance when they are not the one hurting...
I think alanon would be good for you...just to be in the room with other people who understand more than mere words can explain.....