That is the only type of apology I ever received, and I agree, it is not an apology. What changed is that I don't need an apology from my XAH. I am smart enough to know he will never ever admit to ANYONE, not just me, when he is wrong. He is mentally unable to even think in his own head he is wrong. I told him that he will die an old, lonely person b/c eventually he will burn all his bridges, and I truly believe that.
So happy that my own mindset has changed.