pinkpomello......I am giving you this link to a website that I think can be helpful to you......It is an educational website about divorce, and, covers most areas of concern about divorce. It is arranged by state.....
It is not meant to replace your lawyer, of course, but it can help you to begin to organize your thoughts and help you to know what questions to ask....
It helps to know what your right are......
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