Thank you so much for posting this today! You have no idea how much I needed it at this very moment.
Last night, when picking up my child from my STBXAH, he was 15 minutes late to come down from the apartment, then I was again called a c*nt because I didn't want the left over food he shoved in our child's bag. I simply said, "no thank you." He then went on to say "this is all your fault," while carrying our child back behind the locked door so he could "say goodbye."
I know he is upset, we all are. I'm his emotional punching bag to deflect everything to. He later texted me some nonsense about "if you ever come pick up (insert child's name) with that attitude again, stay in the car." It's like he created a different story in his mind and now it's MY fault....ITS INFURIATING!
Anyway, I appreciate this post. I needed it right now. Thank you!