Originally Posted by
lmrs 
So how do I actually establish this boundaries with my AW ? Just a conversation?
Actually, there is no need for you to even tell your AW about your boundaries. Boundaries are about actions that
I will take when that boundary is crossed. They are for and all about ME. They are NOT rules for the A in my life.
Example:
Rule: I will not allow the A to drink in our house.
Boundary: If the A drinks in our house, DD and I will leave the house until he is sober.
See the difference? One is about trying to control the A's behavior, and the other is about controlling my own behavior.
These threads might help you, too:
https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oundaries.html (So what ARE Boundaries?) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oundaries.html (Tips For Setting Boundaries) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oundaries.html (Setting Boundaries) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...es-advice.html (Boundaries and advice) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...tionships.html (Hooks which keep you boundary-less in relationships) https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...oundaries.html (Signs of Ignored Boundaries.)