Your children may see the contact about making your will as an attempt to guilt a response out of them on your terms. Likewise, saying that you hope the wine improves your mood - do you really expect a reply of "Yeah, I hope so too"?
These, along with the recurring drama with your neighbor, are just distractions from sorting out the root issue that we're here to support: alcoholism, and the havoc it (and we) wreaks on our lives. Taking ownership of how I interact with people and my responsibility for my actions went a long way in helping sobriety "stick" this time.
Pour it out, and stick with SR. Change is possible!