I don't want to derail this thread, but...
I do feel compelled to defend my use of the word nonchalance.
This seems a relatively mild and calm response to drunk driving with an innocent child in the vehicle: "Well, I know my wife has driven my daughter after drinking. Today she picked me up from work drunk, so I drove to go pick up my DD. I am afraid she can get into an accident and hurt herself, my daughter or someone else, not to mention he financial struggle that would cause. "
My grandfather was killed by a drunk driver. I know all too well the devastation this can cause for an entire family.
If my daughter's father drove drunk with her in the car, even once, even for only a mile, I would never trust him again and do everything within my power to ensure he NEVER drove her anywhere again.
This is a VERY serious issue: life and death. A child's safety must be prioritized over the desire for a nuclear family.
That's my two cents. Take what you want and leave the rest.