Hi, Imrs.
Welcome.
Sadly, your wife is drinking and, despite what she says, does not appear to be ready to stop.
I know that you know that drinking and driving, especially with a child in the car, is so very far from okay that I have no words for it.
You must consider your child’s safety and take steps, whatever those may be, to ensure that she is not in an unsafe situation with your wife.
This is hard, but necessary.
Good luck and good thoughts.