Rose...
HE WILL BLAME ANYONE HE CAN and guess what? YOU ARE HIS TARGET! Don't accept it, Rose. You didn't cause any of this. You can't control it (him) and you can't cure him.
But dig down deep, Rose, into that Al Anon training and realize you are NOT TO ACCEPT his blame.
Take the Bla Bla Bla out of blame and all that is left is "me". He's grasping at straws, Rose, and you are the easy target.
Hang tough, Rose. You WILL get through this.
Praying for you. And sending a big hug, too...
Love,
Hangin' In