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Old 10-02-2017, 09:24 AM
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biminiblue
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Originally Posted by davesnothere View Post
Yes I think she has a drinking problem, but she does not.

I'm doing this for me.
The best thing you can do for her drinking problem is to become a non-drinker yourself.

She's on her own trajectory.

If you stop, it is going to upset the apple-cart, there is no way around that. I found when I got sober that I could not live with another drinker. My husband and I split when I was in the process of becoming emotionally well and sober myself. I just couldn't live the life any more, plus my being sober brought all of our many huge problems into focus for me.

Some people find their spouse cuts back or quits, too. Problem is, you guys are drinking buddies and by you quitting, she's going to have to face her own demons. It's not going to be pretty, but it will be illuminating.

There is a section on this site called "Friends and Family of Alcoholics" you may want to take a few minutes and read over there, too. It's good to learn your own boundaries around her drinking and to detach from her problem.

I wouldn't try to bring her along with you or to make any accusations. You have enough on your own plate.
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