It would be easier for me if he was a total knob head when sober too!
If he was, you likely wouldn't even be with him to begin with, right? There would have been nothing to draw you in, in the first place. The charm and sweetness is what gets us hooked; then the ugly side comes out.
This has got to be one of the most common statements ever made on this forum--we ALL come here going "but when he's SOBER, he's just GREAT!" as if the drunk person and sober person were 2 separate beings. Unfortunately, they are one and the same, and the longer we stick around, the more we see of the drunk one and the less of the sober one. Things will only go downhill unless the A takes on the hard work of getting and staying sober--the actual WORK, not just saying the WORDS to appease you...