ads....I want to just underline what the others have said. You are being abused, both physically and verbally. You said that he isn't physically abusive...but, putting his hands on your throat and hitting you in the arm is physical....
Especially, putting his hands on your throat is a very serious read flag.....
I hope that you will call the dv center, as soon as you can....and, just tell them everything that you told us....they can help you with a safety plan and help you decide what your best plan of action is....
they deal with this kind of situation, every day, and they are very understanding and compassionate.....
As honeypig said...this will escalate....both the drinking and the abuse. This is probably as good as it is going to be.....