Hello and welcome Dreamingtree!
I'm pretty new here as well, day 6 and counting, and no, it's not easy, but then, no one ever said it would be.
You've found a wonderful place, and to your former bf, well, maybe it's for the best, only time will tell. I had something similar but not quite, as he was living here, and left, he's doesn't realize he's an alcoholic or won't admit it anyway.
Hugs and welcome!