Emotional sobriety is the key to everything for me. It's my focus- without maintaining it, all else - including inevitably drinking- falls apart.
My fiance and I have a short name for the BB part about "when I am disturbed" - we call it "flipping it." Things are "figureoutable", a pause is always a good idea, and looking at the WHY and at myself when I am upset is key. (He's in recovery, too). I also use tools like taking myself out of play for a bit - naps are a big friend of mine- rereading old notes about gratitude, prayer, comments from meetings (I jot all this down in my daily planner every day since it is always with me)....
For me it is often harder when there is just - normal- than dealing with anything extreme. My highs and lows are much less than they used to be, and more quickly righted, and living in the 40 mph lane is the goal. Being grateful for my new normal of happy, peaceful, free is the focus!