First off, very sorry for your pain. I feel it too. Most others here feel it, or have felt it.
Its pretty hard to wrap my head around the fact that we all come from unique situations, but our pain is exactly the same. Its the same outcome every time. The same comments, and stories, a few different twists and turns, but the same ending and pain in the end.
Its heart breaking that we must all endure this.
I guess all there is to do is go through the damn pain and trust in what the people who are on the otherside have to say, that we will be better, stronger, and happier in the end.