So she has shown you two things.
#1. She is not willing to change for you. That she is not there or ready to stop drinking and embrace recovery.
#2. That when pushed she will blame you for all the issues she seems to be having in her life, which is pretty standard for an alcoholic to do.
So, now that you know these things, I hope you put the focus on you. Get thyself to a meeting or to a counselor (hopefully both) who can help you sort out to be strong enough to handle things regardless of what happens.
Gentle hugs to you.