Agoodman.....it sounds like a pretty standard reaction for when an alcoholic is confronted about their drinking...even if it is done with kid gloves. Angry, defensive, blaming and attacking.
Anyone who tries to come between the alcoholic and their drinking is viewed as the enemy....(either overtly or covertly)....
It is important that you understand this, so that you don't personalize it and go guilt tripping on yourself.
You wanted to get it off your chest...so, at least you did that. Good for you.
I sure hope that you are reading the articles that I gave you a link to, in Classic Readings.
The learning curve with this is steep...very steep....
And, the book that is recommended, here (Co-dependency No More) will help give you some better perspective.....
In response to your statement..."I don't know what to do"....
the gold star suggestion that is given to everyone in your position is...
!. Educate yourself 2. Get some face to face support group (alanon or similar group) 3. Get a personal counselor for yourself 4. lol....keep posting on this forum.....