Thanks for your input on this it certainly made me sit up and think .
I wonder if shame and embarrasment are similar feelings .
The small village where I live has an AA meeting every Monday . The venue is a 2 minute walk from my house , in fact I can see the church hall from my front garden . While I have told many people about my drinking ( alcoholism ,AUD) I have never attended this perticular meeting ,not because I feel ashamed but because I feel embarrased and not just for me but for my family . So for my own health sake ( anxiety disorder ) I chose to not go to this local AA meeting for fear of it doing me more harm than good .
I don't want to sound like i,m contradicting my original post its just the truth .
Buk1000 this I can understand ,its a not nice but it happens . It happened with me , not with alcoholism but with stupid religeous sectairianism views that are held in Scotland ( this is another storty though perhaps not for this forum )