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Old 09-04-2017, 11:51 AM
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dandylion
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My advice? go ahead and tell her. I suggest doing it in "I" sentences. Describing how you are feeling. She might feel less attacked, if you do it that way.
I say "maybe", because she is likely to feel attacked (and guilty) and react in a defensive way. Be prepared for her to be angry and to give a long list of what she sees as your shortcomings.
If she is not ready to quit drinking...or, at least WANT to want to...nothing that you say to her will make much difference, anyway.....She will do what she wants to do....
Keeping it all hidden under the rug will just keep tearing you apart....
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