Thelayers you mentioned the word advice but all I can share is my experience. I got together with a fellow A at a recovery group. To be honest I was more committed to recovery and so felt like I was carrying 2 lots of cravings etc etc. When it was good it was great. When it was bad it was absolutely horrendous. It was such a warped situation at times. Measuring out drink so no one had more. Broken promises. Resentment. One bringing the other back into active drinking. Anger. Lies. Codependence. I could go on.......
Tragically my partner died after a huge binge and I still can't grieve. Would I do it again? Not in a million years no. Do I carry guilt? Every day.
Please be very careful and focus on your own recovery. I would say do not live together. Your sobriety is the most important thing treasure it. Take care
