Hi, DN, and welcome to SR. You've gotten a lot of input already, and I only have one other suggestion. Have you checked out the Family and Friends section of the forum? Link to it is here:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
There is a lot of information you might find useful there, both in the regular threads and in the "stickies":
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...find-them.html
Hope to see you over in F&F, and hope you keep reading and posting.