Originally Posted by Ann

Right now she needs to focus on her recovery, not your anger.

One of the things she will learn in rehab is how to have a healthy relationship and until she is healthy herself, that's just not possible.

Have patience, try to understand that this is "her" program to save her life. Something that may help you is to find your own meetings to work through your anger and resentments (and believe me, we all have had them) and learn how to set healthy boundaries yourself. Al-anon, Nar-anon and CoDA are three similar fellowships that have helped many of us find our balance again and stay healthy....no matter how our addicted loved one is doing.

Maybe give meetings a try, or counseling for yourself. When you are healthier and she is healthier, the odds of a healthy relationship increase.