My two cents from both sides....
I think this article could've been written a little less negatively. None of this is done purposefully. Plus not every alcoholic is like this. There is a wide spectrum.
Alcoholics can't love until they learn to love themselves, and are able to see themselves for who they are without further hating themselves.
Once an alcoholic learns how to love themselves, they CAN recover from this way of being and CHANGE. Then they can love others in a healthy way.