Go to the meetings, listen and if you hear someone of the same gender share something that resonates with you, ask for their number. There are some meetings specifically for newcomers....and there are some old timers who go and are ready and willing to help. Attending one of those meetings might be good. Some meetings ask people who are willing and able to sponsor to raise their hands at the end of the meeting or something like "Would anyone willing to talk to a newcomer raise your hand." Look around. There's plenty of help available to you.