Sadly I fear a lobotomy for either myself or my husband wouldn't stop the pain of accepting this marriage is heading downwards.
I packed away my past when I married and now we are separated I know I have to pack away those memories too. It's raw but I take strength from those here who have the experience to help us through.
Great thread. Well done on the pictures with kids thing, you are doing this!
Pack the rest away for now if the grief is too much.
Hugs