But what if you want the relationship with the person? What I mean is my ex is in rehab. I wanna Do what I can to help her. I'm angry with her and I have some resentment but it doesn't stand in the way of loving the woman. I can't wait till she succeeds and I get to experience the sober woman I fell in love with. I keep getting told to leave her alone and forget about reconciliation. I refuse to accept that.