I am going to say this, I still post here, and I am a success story. We are not together, but I am a different, and much better person than who I was when we were together. My XAH is in my opinion a horrible person, all around. I was miserable w/ him, and our children were miserable in such a home.
Now....I have a good job. I own my own home. I am a good example for my kids. We have learned that we cannot control how others act, but we can sure control how we react. I have a happy life. I have learned that living on pins and needles was destroying me, completely changed me into a different person. I have learned that I AM IN CONTROL OF MY OWN LIFE. So are you Ophelia.
You have dreams. One step a time, do what you need to do to achieve those and be the happy person you deserve to be.
HUGE HUGS!