Being sober isn't some magical island where life is perfect. It's the same crap and bs that you have to deal with,whether you're sober or not.
You said you were mad that you drank. Did it help you to drink that night? Did it make the crappy day go away, or did it just add on to the crap?
I decided that I was not going to drink. It was not part of my life. It was not a solution to problems. It is not a day to day decision.
I wish I could help you with your partner. My wife drinks occasionally. I won't deny her that because she doesn't have this problem i have. You have to come to some acceptance of that I guess.